The ideas, attitudes, or activities that are regarded as normal or conventional; the dominant trend in opinion, fashion, or the arts.
From pregnancy activities to interest of homeschooling, all my choices in motherhood are due in large part to because everyone is, well, not doing it. In addition to creepily rubbing my pregnant womb, strangers and especially well-meaning friends would offer their advice – generally unwanted, of course. “Normal” has evolved into ignoring the biological and instinctual cues as parents for the sake of conforming or convenience.
Here is my experience with shit mainstream people say about…
When You’re In a Serious Relationship
Okay, it’s not parenting related but I wanted to start the series at a time in my life with shit mainstream people said to me before I was even married or pregnant. I was in a serious, serious relationship with someone else before meeting Husband. Mind you, I was proudly child-free and education-minded, women’s rights and all that noise and hated the idea of marriage and especially kids. He was conservative (I know, right?) in the ways of gender roles and personal identity. His idea of starting a life together was for me to drop out of college and start my mainstream adventure of mini-vans and mom jeans. We were together on and off for about 3 years but I heard plenty from his friends, my friends, and just mainstream people in general.
“When are you guys gonna get married so you can have kids?!”
Oh yeah! Let me me get on that for you! I mean, you’re right – what in the hell am I doing by doing you, your dog, and the world a disservice by leaving this ripe uterus unoccupied? Oh, and I know he had betta out a ring on it before planting his golden seed too, right? White gold bands on left hand triggers your optimal fertility, dontchaknow.
Are you saying that unwed mothers are doomed and that the next cow over will demand a dowry before giving away milk rather than the harlot that you are giving it away for free? I never understood that life’s events had to happen in a certain order or the universe will explode. Two months salary on a diamond, wearing an expensive white dress (worst color ever, by the way) only once, and then popping out mainstream kids. Most of all those generated ideas came from a single person’s ideal of how it should be and now we now have Kim Kardashian. Thanks, Society, thanks a lot.
What mainstream shit have you heard about your serious/non-serious relationship? Did you fall victim? What have you done in your relationship that falls into ‘mainstream’?