She said she couldn’t be in the same room. She said she knows it’s unnecessary. She said she would not ever recommend it to anybody. She said she circumcised her newborn son because her other son, husband, father (-in-law), and grandfather were as if it’s like a family tradition. She also said let others know what I’m saying.
My best friend since 7th grade knows my stance on routine infant circumcision so she prefaced our play date mommy conversation, initiated by her, with a –
I know how you feel about it…
In reality, it’s not about how I feel at all. My emotions surrounding infant circumcision aren’t about or within me but for that newborn lying strapped to a board helpless and voiceless. I’m not the one who just was born a boy and shuffled through the mainstream thought that he will somehow grow unclean and unhygienic in a modern world. She described to me about her first born’s procedure and how she left the room. I lied about it and cut her off saying I have watched YouTube videos of it to see how it is carried out just so she didn’t have to further describe any gory details.
I’m not here to preach how I feel about it; I’m here to spread the message of a mother’s voice, who was stifled by family and riddled with guilt twice. She said it was heartbreakingly horrible and would never want any other family to go through it, why isn’t that enough?