Planning for a homebirth still means I’m in the minority just because I had a positive hospital birth and, yeah, I would recommend a hospital as a birth option. I know hospitals have a bad rap what with the high rates of c-sections and inductions for normal, low-risk pregnancies that could be avoided if it was out of that sterile and cold environment. Believe you me, I didn’t feel safe in the hospital but, alas, my then-insurance didn’t cover birth center or home births. What better way to play with what you’re dealt with than go in with your arsenal of birth prowess and a stealthy army into territory you can’t help but go to. This goes for all birth environments.
I did it all. I watched “Business of Being Born,” checked if my insurance covered midwives, got a doula, and took the classes. I mentally and physically prepared for this birth and I got the birth I planned for. For every positive sharing of my hospital birth, I’ve gotten just as equal if not double the negativity or poor experience. Look, I’m sorry you had a horrible time in the hospital. I’m truly very sorry. How does me sharing how my nurses were completely supportive of my preferences while my midwife called a surgeon on stand-by completely downplay your birth experience?
Let me have this. I’m not disregarding your experience just because I wanted to point out that there are instances of where women choose to birth in a hospital and go on to have a great experience. I share this experience in hopes to reach out to women who want to birth intervention-free in the hospital. Despite what you or I would like, not everyone will have nor want an out-of-hospital birth. Just not happening. If I were to scare the woman out of the hospital, how different is that from the society’s “warnings” of the homebirth? I believe a hospital should still be a viable option for a birth setting. Same as a birth center, home birth, unassisted/free-birth, they should all be presented to and considered by the mother because every person has their own sense of safe birth. Let them have that.