Super engorged, I forced that pacifier out of my 3-month-old’s mouth to relieve some of the backed up milk. This was the first time Humnoy has willfully taken a binky after many clumsy attempts in the three months leading up to that day, which he forgot all about nursing. He would be obsessed from that day forward. Little did I know that pacifier use would change a lot of things and not necessarily for the better when turned to for comforting those inconsolable outbursts or inevitable car rides.
I have made the decision to not have my second child be a “binky baby.” Lanoy has recently discovered her thumb and is almost the same age when Humnoy began his binky binge. Though tempting as I remembered pacifiers were a saving grace, I won’t let Lanoy have a binky but will not mind her go to town with her adorable little thumb. As an attachment parent, I’m running a case trial of both a binky baby and a thumb sucker. What’s the deal with both anyway?
Weaning The old saying goes, “you can take away binkies.” Essentially it is said to be easier to wean off of pacifier use. You can hold goodbye ceremonies, fairy tale exits, and even just cut off the tips stopping its functionality in its tracks. Deal with a days-long tantrum and poof, it’s done and over with. With an attached thumb, it’s harder to just ‘take it away.’
Preference Humnoy never discovered his thumb or I didn’t give it enough time. When he was teething something terrible in those horrid teething days, the binky soothed him when I couldn’t, boobs or otherwise. Gym Hottie actually tried it once and remarked how he could see it helps relieve teething pain because the suction massages gums. Well, no wonder; I’d want a constant gum massage too. Humnoy has tried to let his sister borrow his but she wasn’t having none of it.
Eco-friendly Binkies are pure plastic nipple replacement, plain and simple. An oxymoron for my goal toward natural parenting but we also eat bacon and that’s an entirely other post. It makes my skin crawl knowing he is sucking on a plastic nubby for most of his waking hours. I do plenty of other damages to the environment and I don’t want to add one more binky baby to the mix if I can help it. Thumbs require little to no production costs on the environment. Just 10 months gestation.
Costs I can’t tell you how much we’ve spent on buying, replacing, and time locating binkies. At least with a thumb sucker, the lack of costs are the most appealing factor. Six dollars a box for a two-pack over two years makes me clench in fantasies of what vacation getaways could have been. Not to mention losing those little bastards but, of course, the manufacturers recommend they be replaced every so often. Of course they do.
I could wean him, I could hold a parting ceremony, or I could just hide it and he’ll forget about it for two days. I won’t though because it’s an attachment to him now. Now that I know better with soothing options can be babywearing or comfort nursing without resorting to a binky, I believe I can avoid Lanoy ever having to “need” one. My hope is that Humnoy will just be finished with his ‘gaga’ on his own time much like breastfeeding, which is my gentle reminder to just lay off of his pacifier obsession. Like my boobs, I know he will just outgrow the binky and we’ll just be happy when that day comes as a celebration of entering a new development stage. Until then, I choose to pull the binky card as a resource in motherhood with two littles made up of one thumb baby and one binky baby.
Why did/n’t you have a thumb or binky baby? How did it turn out?
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