I now realize that milestone checklists are shit. They make parents feel nervous, anxious, and sometimes failing. I felt that way with Humnoy’s language development while not one professional took into account his many other talents. Humnoy is a piece of work. We are constantly shocked at the stunts he pulls or can learn with just one example. I professed my stage-mom fear that I would try to ignore the highly possible sibling comparison. With Lanoy, I was at peace that she may not be advanced as her older brother. A running joke within our family but never comparing it to other children, of course, she will be the calm, collected child compared to her wild-child athlete of a brother. I admit we also joked that she needs to catch up when her three-month mark passed and she had yet sat up unassisted like her older bbrother. Unlike a checklist or other gene pools, I just compare my children to each other.
Take, for example, when he rolled over at three weeks old and the reaction from our Facebook friends/family made us realize a baby born less than a month prior doing this is uncommon. As the law of amazing things not occurring often, I figured my experience with a child with impressive gross motor skills could only happen that one in a few chance. Focusing on other things like feeding and clothing and entertaining two young kids, I had no time or energy to constantly stay up-to-date with where they ‘should’ be on their milestones. As it turns out, comparing siblings to each other is a bit more accurate than the generic charts because they’re more similar than I thought they would be. I think big brother antics is rubbing off on our sweet cherub because she’s discovered screeching and putting all the things in her mouth while doin’ big girl things.